As a test of how well you know me, ask yourself this question.
Is Jenny a decisive or indecisive person?
If you answered (as I’m sure Husband did) indecisive, you are correct. I am, what I like to term, conditionally indecisive. When I feel that the decision affects someone, other then myself, I tend to be unable to decide anything until I’m sure that my decision will totally accommodate you and your wants. (This touches on a whole other personality flaw I have that I won’t get into today.) The problem with this is that one can never really be sure what another person wants. Especially if you suspect, like I often do, other people are trying to do the exact same thing when they tell you what they want!
Also, I have to think over all kinds of different crazy angles to be sure that my decision won’t create any other unforeseen problems. For example, it took me a year to pick out the couch we have now. What is the right shape? What would be the right color? Was is really necessary to buy a new couch in the first place? Would I still like it after I had it for a while? Was it the right kind of couch for a “long term” investment that furniture should be? Those are just a few of the questions I asked myself before I bought my couch.
I have recently realized that this problem of mine is lessened if I feel that my making a decision will solve a problem more then any problem making a decision could make.
Enter the problem.
We live in an approximately 900 sq/ft house. We have two kids. Those two kids have stuff. Husband has stuff. I have stuff. I’m sure you see the problem.
So I woke up one morning and said to myself, “Self, this problem needs to be fixed!” So I hopped on IKEA’s web site and in an hour figured out solutions to all our storage/organization problems (when I say ALL I’m exaggerating a bit, but I really feel like what I came up with will make a big difference). And while I was doing all this deciding I picked out cabinets, flooring and counter top that we have been debating about for the last five years.
I’m proud of me. I hope you are too.
What is/had been hard for your to decide?