Category Archives: Friend Thoughts

The Key

I was thinking the other day about key moments that happen that if they hadn’t, my life would have been very different.  One of them centers around my friend “Lady MacBeth”.

When I was eight the boundaries of my ward changed.  It all snowballed from there.

If my mother had not been called to do the ward newsletter, and if she had not interviewed Lady MacBeth’s parents for the getting to know you article, and if she had not brought me along, if Lady MacBeth and I had not become friends that evening, my life for the next ten years would have looked very different.

After that Lady MacBeth was basically my only friend at church.  There were some other girls who were nice but none that got me. I was different, I never realized how different until I was an adult. She was different too, and we were similar kinds of different.  She also knew other kids who were similar kinds of different.  I had only met one before, and honestly, I’ve not met many since.

All my good and true friends that I had in High School I met through her.  And then when I went to college all the friends that I had there were the same one’s I made through her in High School. If I was not friends with her what kind of friends would I have wound up with?  I either would have had no friends or I would have had very different friends.

My friends I got though her, they were all nerds.  I’m smart but they are all smarter.  I was the regular kid among the geniuses. I think being friends with them helped me learn more and grow more intellectually, and it helped me learn to be okay not being the smartest person in the room, because I never was. If I’d not had those friends I would have had a very different view of myself and how I fit in the world.

Also, they were all really good kids. Our being bad was playing at parks after they closed. Never did anything happen that was against my faith or my morals. They never tempted me to do bad things. It was cool to be good. That had a big effect on me as well. It made it easy to do the right things, because everyone was doing the right things. If I had not had those friends I can easily see myself having been pushed by peer pressure to do wrong thing in a desperate bid to fit in and have some friends.

So, basically my life up until my mission would have sucked without her.

And I’m pretty sure I would have been someone different when my mission time came. Would I have been the type of girl who goes on a mission? If not, my whole life the last 12 years would have been completely different. I would have not met Husband. And that REALLY would have sucked.

So, I’d like to just take this chance to say


You were the key.

I hope you know what a good thing you did when you were nice to me that night we played pirate ship on your bunk beds while our mothers talked.

And I did like that smoothy, I know you didn’t believe me at the time, but I did.




The reoccurring sickness

So, since Christmas I’ve been sick. This is how it works. I spend about a week feeling very sick and slowly get better. I spend about three days when I think I’m almost over it, but not completely. Then I plunge back into being very sick. All this happened right when we changed insurance and I didn’t have any insurance information, even though we were covered. So, Wednesday I finally got insurance cards and went to the doctor.

When I told the doc I had a sinus infection I wanted to laugh when she said “You think it’s a sinus infection, what makes you think that?” I didn’t laugh, I did tell her that it was the horrible pain and pressure in my sinsus, the yellow mucus, the pressure in my ears, and the fact that I have sinus infections all the time that clued me in.  Although I didn’t say it as sarcastic as I’m typing it.  I think it’s funny how doctors sometimes think you are stupid.

Then she examined me and suddenly I was no longer stupid.  Then she called baby boy a girl.  I let that one slide with a “It’s okay, he’s a pretty boy.”

The really sad thing about all of this is that Meatloaf has been sick right along with me. I’m hoping that the meds will break the cycle.

Do you ever get sick in a cycle like that?  What do you do to break it?  Do you ever feel like Doctors think everyone else is stupid?


As I’ve been visiting my parents I’ve also had a chance to catch up with some old friends, some of which I haven’t seen in over five years.  It’s been fun to catch up on what has gone on in their lives.  All this visiting and catching up has made me think about back in the days before interstate highways and air travel, how if you moved away from an area, even as little as fifty miles, you were very unlikely to see any of those people again.  All the pioneers who settled the west while leaving family back east only got news via letters.  No flitting back for a week and catching up with old friends, no blogs or email to use for quick communication.  How lucky we are to be able to keep in touch so easily.

So, keep that in mind next time you blog (and you should!) or when you send that email to your old college roommate.

What person do you still consider a good friend that you haven’t seen in a long time?  And how long has it been?

Maternity Photos

I have this friend who takes the most amazing photos.  As a gift for me this baby she took some maternity photos and will do newborn photos of The Boy when he is born.   She did the same thing for me with Cake as well.  How nice is she?

She just posted some of the maternity photos we did on her blog.   Also, if you remember the birthday cake photos of both girls on their first birthdays, that was Debe too!  I”m so lucky to have such talented and nice friends!

Splish Splash

A friend of mine mentioned in her blog a splash pad that we tried out today. Peanut took a few minutes to warm up but then she spent the whole time running in circles around and around. Cake on the other hand, never really warmed up. As long as I was holding her she was okay, but if I tried to put her on the ground in front of a jet she started crying. If I held her she was happy to stick her hands in the water. That was our first water activity this summer and we all had a good time. Next I think, we will have to try a pool!

Peanut’s Friends

Peanut has been talking about people who are her friends frequently over the last few weeks. It’s interesting who she says her friends are. The kids at the park (who’s she’s never met), Granny and Babush, and her toys. Her cousins, Cake, and Mickey Mouse.

What’s even more interesting is which people are not on her list of friends.

Me. I am not her friend.

She was listing her friends the other day and I asked her if I was her friend. She very firmly told me “No, your not my friend, your Mommy.”

Well, I can’t argue with that I guess.

What would I do?

Thank goodness for friends. Friends who have kids who wake them up at 3:00 a.m. every night for three weeks, just like mine. It makes me feel better knowing it’s not me screwing my kids up, it just happens. What is that saying, misery loves company? I just needed to tell someone that I’m slowing going insane due to lack of sleep. I had one friend come over, one called and we went to the park with two other friends, and they all let me complain and all sympathized with me. What ever would I do without friends.

Just know, it happens to everyone, it won’t be forever, and you will make it!