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Internet Safety

I have a lot of snarky things I’d like to write with the title above, but instead I’ll write about what actually happened.

Peanut asked me what I do for a living, that turned into a discussion on what computers are, what a database is and the difference between your computer and the internet (Which is something quite a few adults are fuzzy on). As I was talking with them (All the kids were there even though the question originated with Peanut) I felt it was a very good time to address computer safety again.

I explained to them that I have their user accounts set up so they will be safe for them, but that not everyone will have their computers set up that way and even though I’ve got the computers as safe as I can make them bad things might still get through.

The look of shock and horror on Cake’s face when I told her that some people put bad things on the computer was both funny and sad at the same time. Funny because of the look, sad because here I was teaching her that there are bad people in the world.

Cake got very concerned about the computers at school. She wanted to be sure that they were safe. She apparently doesn’t trust the computer teacher to do his job. I had to reassure her several times that the computers at the school were safe.

I told them that at some time they may be at friends houses using a computer and their computers might not be set up like ours, so it’s very important that they be careful when using other computers.

Then I told them that one of the bad things that people do with computers with put picture of naked people on them. Again the looks of horror from all three of my kids was something to behold. I told them that the bad guys are very sneaky with computers and that even if they are being careful a bad picture might pop up on the computer. I told them what I wanted them to do if that ever happened was to clap their hands over their eyes and turn away from the computer and call a grown-up for help. I then had them practice this several times.

Here comes the part that is actually funny.

A few days later Husband had the girls at the mall. They walked by Victoria Secret.  Cake saw a picture in the window and immediately clapped her hands over her eyes, turned away and shouted “Help me Daddy, Help me Daddy!” She would not stop until he had walked her away.

The thing that makes this even more funny is that I had not had a chance to tell Husband about my conversation. He had no idea why Cake was doing what she was doing. He came home saying, “The weirdest thing happened.”

I was VERY happy to hear that Cake had done what she had been taught

So, have you ever had an internet safety conversation with your kids? How did you do it? What was the result?

 

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What don’t the internets match the stats?

So, I do a fair amount of reading about breastfeeding these days. I’m sure you can guess why. I’ve been struggling a bit with it I’ve been looking for resources about stopping breastfeeding, etc.  Partly I’m looking for a way to not feel like a failure for stopping at 4 months.

Which is stupid of me because I believe that parenting is a personal choice that should be made by the parents of the child.  Every child and every situation is different.  You have to do what works for you and your child. I wouldn’t judge anyone for their parenting choices.  I may not understand but no judging.  So if this is what works for my child and me, why do I feel bad about it?

According to the CDC in 2012 81.9% of women breastfed at some point. By 6 months 60.6% of women were breastfeeding and 25.5% were breastfeeding exclusively.

What I want to know is where is the internet presence of that 18.1% and the 39.4% and that 74.5% of women? All those women that the CDC says have stopped breastfeeding, they have to use computer’s don’t they? You would think they would have things to say about why they stopped breastfeeding, about how they felt about it, how their baby took to it.  As far as I can find, there is only one webpage in the whole internet dedicated to it.  Every “Ask” and “Yahoo Answers” question about the topic is either women who are trying to wean at 2 years or the answers to the question are all like “You can do it, I breastfed my baby to 3 years and you can too!”  So clearly these are not the women I’m looking for.

Why are they not there? Is it because, like me, they have some secret shame for not doing like the women who nurse for a long time?  Is it there and I’ve just lost my googling chops? Do women only write about doing something and not about stopping doing something?

Even when you are making a choice that feels right for you it’s nice to have validation that others feel the same way.  When Peanut was born I wasn’t able to nurse her because of her medical condition, so I pumped.  Once they said I could start nursing as long as I topped her off with a bottle afterwards, she fought me tooth and nail. After about three months I gave up pumping and breastfeeding and just gave her bottles.  Breastfeeding, bottle feeding and then pumping was just too much for me.  I talked to a friend of mine about it a few days later and she had just done the same thing with her baby who is the same age as Peanut.  We both expressed relief that there was someone else who felt as we did and did the same thing we did for much the same reason.

So, I appeal to you women out there, those 18.1%er’s and those 39.4%er’s and those 74.5%er’s speak up!  When I’m sitting there fighting my baby to get him to nurse I like to feel like you exist.

On the Internet

I know the last fifty million post have been about Meatloaf, but this one is not.

I’ve been thinking about what a strange thing the internet is.  I know many people have written on how now anything we want to know, we go to the internet.

Unlike an encyclopedia, where you could pretty much trust what it says, you have thousands of amateurs telling what they think, right or wrong, and you basically go with the most common consensus and call that the truth.  Wikipedia is the new encyclopedia, and I have to say, it’s entry on the Church was about as accurate as the print encyclopedias I’ve looked at (Mostly right).

There is something else, and this is what I have been dwelling on more, really strange about the internet.  Blog/Twitter/Facebook stalking. How else can you peep in at someone and their thoughts and not be a criminal?  I do it all the time, and when you say it the way I just did, it’s weird.  This leads to something else.  Feeling like you know someone you don’t really know.

Now, on facebook and twitter I don’t friend/follow anyone I don’t know in RL, unless they are a public figure like Ted Cruz or the Piano Guys, but I’m friends/follow a LOT of people who I could maybe pick them out of a line up, but they probably couldn’t do the same for me.  Or people who I have had one or two short exchanges with.  These are mostly people from church.  This brings up another topic that I will write on another day, how you can Love people you don’t really know.  So you meet these people from church that you don’t really know and you friend/follow them and you learn all this personal stuff about them, see pictures of them on vacation, see what they think and worry about, but you still have never had a real conversation with them.

I have on person I follow on twitter that comes to mind as a perfect example of this.

Gina.

I have had probably two, passing-you-in-the-hall-say-hi and that’s about it conversations with Gina.  She’s played piano while I was the chorister for a few baptisms and we talked briefly about the songs and that fact that I can’t lead music worth crap, but that’s all the RL contact I’ve had with Gina.

Gina is a prolific tweeter (is that the correct term?) She is DANG funny.  I have learned that Gina is a writer.  I know all kinds of things about her kids that I didn’t.  I have seen pictures of her life through instagram.  I have a feel for the way she thinks, her politics.  I have a pretty good idea (I think) how she would react to some situations, all with out ever having a real-life-in-depth conversation with her.

The other thing that makes it weird, is I doubt Gina had been able to glean the same information about me.  I am not a prolific tweeter, nor do I have an instagram account, and until Meatloaf was born the only pictures I had of my kids on Facebook was my header picture.  She has probably figured out my politics as that’s about the only thing I post on Facebook, links to political articles. So it makes it a really one sided friendship, at least I think…

That’s the other weird thing, when you have a RL conversation with people you walk away knowing what they probably learned about you from the conversation, both participants in the conversation had equal time and opportunity to learn about the other person.  You will have a good idea of what the other person came away with, not so with the internet.  Gina doesn’t know I even read her tweets (well, she does now, but before <shrug>) but if we had a RL conversation, Gina would know it.

So, do you have a lot of internet only friends?  Do these “friends” know you think of them as friends?  Could they pick you out of a crowd?  Do you think this is a good thing?  Do you think it’s killing real friendship?  I my mind, the jury is still out.

Courage

Blogging is an interesting thing.  You are putting personal things online for anyone to read.  Once you post it, it’s out there; you don’t control it any more.  The internet is a living creature that once fed does not return and you never know what will happen.

I am very careful about what I share.  I don’t share things that are too personal.  Not only am I a security freak, I’m scared.  Not that anyone besides people I know and trust actually reads my blog.  But I still can’t do it, I just don’t think I could take an off the cuff comment, made innocently I’m sure, about some things.  I’m not brave enough or strong enough.  So I just don’t write about those things.

I have been thinking about this for a while.

Several people I know who have blogs have more courage than I do. They share things that I would be scared to share.  But I am extremely grateful that they were brave enough to do so.

Several of my friend have had some significant trials that they blogged about.  Some of the things that they have shared are extremely personal.  Not only about physical trials, but emotional ones as well, sometimes both. I was grateful to be able to read their experiences and learn from them.  I hope that they know the thing that they have shared and the way they have dealt with them, their sharing of how the Lord had helped them through trials, has helped me in ways that I have never said.  I’m sure their words have helped more others in similar ways then they know about.

The Church has been talking for a while about how we need to have a positive influence on the internet.

 

These Women Do.

 

I just wanted to say Thank You and I Love You!

 

Please Keep Sharing!

Why I write…again

I know I’ve written at least one post in the past about why I write a blog (let me tell you, I miss writing regularly).

One of the reasons is just to know that the world knows I exist.

SO…

<INSERT geeky joke here>

HELLO WORLD

</END geeky joke>

If you didn’t get that, don’t worry, all it means is your are NOT a geek, Congratulations.

If you did get it, Congratulations, you ARE a geek!

Hum…I think I know what I should write about next…

Curses

I read this comic called Real Life.  I read this one and laughed so hard.  I had to share.

Barbie Girl

I’m sure you remember this

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pxn567bHny8

then their was this

In 1997, the Danish-Norwegian pop-dance group Aqua released a song called “Barbie Girl”. It contained lyrics such as “You can brush my hair / Undress me everywhere” and the video for the song used graphics similar to the pink Barbie logo. Mattel argued that this constituted a trademark infringement and filed a defamation lawsuit against MCA Records on September 11, 1997. In July 2002, Judge Alex Kozinski ruled that the song was protected as a parody under the First Amendment to the United States Constitution.

and now this!

http://barbie.everythinggirl.com/

Why does this disturbe me?